Part of being in your twenties is that you’re just figuring stuff out, right? I have heard it said (of your twenties) that “struggling just comes with the territory” and that it all works itself out.
As someone in my twenties, I can definitely say that struggling has been on my radar (and my family’s) for quite some time. But I can’t say that it’s just because “it comes with the territory.”
Maybe some bit of it does. But the rest?
It comes with the mindset. The way we think shapes our experiences.
So while I know there’s some “figuring stuff out” in our twenties that can definitely be a struggle, I also know that our mindset and attitude play a large role in how our lives are defined.
My husband and I have spent the last few years in limbo, it seems. We have had a lot of changes and every time we think we figure out what is best, we find ourselves feeling disappointed and longing for something different. Each “better” situation still has its flaws, and we always miss something about the old “worse” situation.
Wherever we are, it seems like life just is not satisfying. We just can’t seem to get it right.
As much as I hate to admit this, our mindset is way off. We spend more time thinking about what we don’t have or what we hope for our lives to someday be than we spend embracing the present.
I know I am not the only person that has heard people say
The grass is always greener on the other side.
Right? I think people say it light heartedly a lot, meaning that you always want what the other person has, or you always want what you don’t have. Whatever situation you are in, another situation always seems better. The saying describes exactly the mindset that my husband and I have been in for quite some time.
And while I get that no harm is intended in such a simple statement, I honestly think we all just need to stop saying it.
Because the truth is, the grass is not greener on the other side.
The grass is always greener where you water it.
And that’s what we are learning. Wherever you are, there will be things you wish were different. We could spend our whole lives looking for the perfect greener grass, when there’s a whole field of grass right in front of us that just needs a little watering.
We need to change our mindset, embrace the present while being hopeful for the future, and take it one day at a time, fully invested in the field in front of us.
I am not saying we should stop longing for more, but that we should start pouring into our present situations. We can only be in one place at a time, in one season at a time. And no matter how great another situation might look from afar, if it isn’t our current setting, it shouldn’t get our first fruits- in our hearts, in our minds, in our actions, and in our finances.
The here and the now is the only situation we are in, so that is the one we need to work on. A simple shift in our mindset along with an active choice to be positive could be all it takes.
The grass in front of us might not be our ultimate dream or final destination, but we should still water it while we have it.